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4:44 pm
February 14, 2012
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Dadof3
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Hi Guys,
My oldest is 12 coming up to 13. I had the sex talk with him when he was 11. I need help as I need to talk to him again… I have two issues I need to discuss with him but not sure how to raise it without embarrising him.
First off Masturbation – now we know that he has started masturbating and thats fine as we all do it. Its just that he is not very good at tidying up and we have found we need to change his sheet quite oftern. Im not sure how to approach the matter.
Secondly which kinda links in with the first is that I have noticed that someone has been going through my porn. i.e magazines in different order and dvds in wrong cases. Now I dont really mind him looking at porn (i did about his age too) its just I don't like him going through my private stuff. I am thinking of maybe getting my son some magazine of his own? Is that something anyone else has done?
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12:54 pm
February 16, 2012
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editor
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Hi Dadof3, You sound like you are a very cool dad already in that you are not freaked out by it, are understanding and care about not embarrassing him.
I suggest perhaps a "man to man" where you stress its normal and you are not telling him off but just ask him to be more vigilant with personal hygiene and present him with some of his own porn that you have purchased. He may at first feel awkward but i think that will soon pass and he will feel good that u treated him like an equal plus he will have a brand new porn stash to distract him!
Good luck. Please let us know how you get on.
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10:10 pm
March 1, 2012
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Dadof3
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Cheers guys, I had the talk with him and it went well. It was kinda awkward to start with as it just felt a little bit false to start with. But otherwise it was actually quite easy once started. He even told me I was not allowed to steal his porn lol oh how the tables have turned!
We don't have any hygiene problems any more and we seem to be alot closer for it.
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4:04 am
March 12, 2012
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Gerald
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When my son hit puberty I immediately talk to him about sex and its implications because at that stage they are at risk for getting diseases and pregnancy ( or getting the girl pregnant ) they the most vulnerable because of curiosity and lack of knowledge. They need to know that we are here to answer their questions, guide them and here whenever they need us.
Yeah, its very awkward to talk about it but its necessary. We all gotta deal with it.
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